I tell them that BBW women are different, but in general, what they want from men is the same. Many different types of men can find girlfriends and keep them. But if you look at the successful curvy women, the people who make them happy and keep them around, they have something in common.
Become a leader
This is not as difficult as it sounds. You don't need to be a quarterback on a football team or a CEO of a fortune 500 company to be a leader. What you need to do is show leadership.
If you're planning a BBW dating, don't ask her what she wants to do. There's a plan. In general, you have many easy ways to take control. Pick her up at her house whenever possible. Choose what movie to watch.
To control but not to be controlled
Take a leadership role in any organization, whether it's a club, a sports team, or your workplace, whenever possible. Volunteer for more responsibility and information. When she sees how others respect you, she can't take her hands off you.
Control yourself
Keeping a clear head is a great way to show that you are reliable, not clingy. Don't let any external factors influence your emotions or actions.
If you get angry, you can't control yourself because you let others control your emotions. If you have strong opinions, stick to your guns and don't be afraid to stick to your guns. Exercise, meditation and self-discipline are great ways to control your emotions.
If she doesn't see any impact, she knows you have inner strength and confidence.
Have female friends
Women like to feel safe with men. If they feel safe and happy to see other plus size women around you, they subconsciously feel the same way. If you're surrounded by other women, they'll want to know why. If they're interested, you're halfway there.
If you have trouble talking to chubby women, keep it simple. The first step in making female friends is to talk to the BBW women around you: waiters, cashiers, female colleagues. Don't feel pressured to impress them or make them laugh. Just listen and talk. Men play guitar for curvy women
This will be a good exercise when you start asking girls out.
Make her feel good
Now I'm not talking about becoming some kind of sex expert (though that doesn't hurt). I mean you need to be able to elicit a positive emotional response.
Make her laugh. Get her to talk about something that interests or excites her. Buy her a bagel. There are many ways to make a curvy woman feel good, and if she starts to notice that she feels better when you're around, she'll want you more and more.
Have a goal
You already have one goal: a girlfriend. Apply this to other areas of your life. It could be a simple 5k race, or a seminal Oscar for best sound design. Find what you want and take positive steps that BBW women will notice.
Working towards your goals says something about you: you know what you want, you have faith in yourself, and you are independent. All of these things make you attractive.